18 February, 2012

Chivalry, Dead


Ladies love to be treated like they're the most special people in the world. They expect us guys to treat them well and make their lives easy, peaceful and romantic because it's our godforsaken job to take care of those things for them. I have no problem with that. I can give them the flowers, Hallmark cards, cheesecakes, milk teas and other inedible things they crave for because apparently sometimes they just can't buy it for themselves, and they have this often false preconceived notion that guys have something we don't run out of in our wallets aside from condoms and random cards. I will help an old woman cross the street. I will help a pregnant woman carry her groceries to her car, while wondering where the heck her husband has been slacking. I will help a girl pick up all the neatly highlighted and color-coded notes she drops in the corridor. That is, if I'm not late for my 7 am lab class.  


I wake up at seven thirty.


You see, men are busy. They do work to earn money for themselves and their families. I don't even consider myself a real man yet, because I still play Pokemon, but I'm busy. In this day and age, people don't have time to care about chivalry anymore, and even women don't. They don't complain about how much leisure and rest the men are getting after coming home from work while they're working their butts off taking care of the kids and house chores while having a day job. They love it. They enjoy getting to show how much work they are capable of doing. They dance with it in front of the men. The world has evolved into a jungle where it's every person for themselves. We work hard and it's either for money or pride, or both.


And women sometimes just expect too much from men. They want to be loved like they're Megan Fox, adored like Zooey Deschanel, and respected like Mother Theresa all at the same time. I mean come on, that just can't happen.


Let me not worry about the semantics here. By chivalry I mean being an honorable man to women. That usually means being the ideal man from fictional stories women have so wistfully dreamed of every night they gaze out their window and stare at the stars. Some people say it means serving women. To me it just means being respectable. It's crazy because people have developed several meanings for it, but whatever it is, the consensus is that chivalry is dead.


RIP Whitney Houston.


In the season premiere of Survivor: One World, a conflict immediately developed between the two tribes separated by gender. It all started when the men stole some of the women's stuff in a challenge where they were given 60 seconds to gather supplies off a truck. The women were furious, calling the guys cheap and dirty. And then at camp where the men and women agreed to work together to catch wild chickens and then split the catch later, the women broke the deal when it turned out that it was one of the girls who was able to catch both chickens. The girls kept the chickens to themselves. And then so at the immunity challenge, where the guys were in the lead of the race when one of the girls got seriously hurt, the men were given an option to take the win, or to continue, finish the race and risk losing. Of course the men chose to win right then and there. The women got catty yet again, saying how those guys could not be real men and finish the fight. The men did not care, and one of them pointed out that if it were one of them that got hurt and the women were in the lead, the women would've surely done the same thing and taken the sure win. By that, the girls were insulted, and one of the girls declared that chivalry is dead.


I love Survivor.


If there is one thing men do that women hate the most, that I learned from growing up with older sisters and my mom, it is to complain by making a totally valid argument. Girls don't want to hear that they are at fault. They expect guys to just give them what they want, and if we don't we should shut up because apparently girls are the only ones allowed to talk. Having a voice and getting heard is probably the only right they enjoy practicing the most, so us guys better not show them we have the same exact thing. It's easy to give them that, so why not?


Ah, women -- so complex. And you all still wonder why so many dudes now prefer dudes?


Chivalry is not dead. Men still care for women, but unfortunately this world has gotten tough for everyone. Like in my example, those men and women are competing on Survivor. They are fighting to survive on an island for 39 days to win a million dollars, so they cannot expect the guys to give up their win, especially momentum, so easily. The same thing goes for the concrete jungle of modern life. We work hard in order to survive, and to some, every second is worth some money. It's every man for himself, and women have embraced the idea that they are more than capable of doing things themselves and that they don't need men as much as they need them. In the end we still all see each other as humans who deserve to be cared for, and that we, through tough times, still know how to respect one another regardless of gender. 









kudos to honorable men and women.
oliver.

9 Comments:

Ash said...

"...it is to complain by making a totally valid argument. Girls don't want to hear that they are at fault. They expect guys to just give them what they want, and if we don't we should shut up because apparently girls are the only ones allowed to talk."

At the risk of getting beatdown by any woman who sees me pointing out this statement - amen sir. Very well said, and true to a fault.

I hate when women say chivalry is dead; it's not. Just stop hanging around total, blatant douchebags and you'll see that there's plenty of guys out there who know how to treat a woman. If the guy treats you like an arse, leave. Jeez.

Anyway, I feel that's enough from me, lest I lose my entire female reader-base.

Great post, was a damn good read.

Oliver said...

Haha good thing you pointed that out; I just realized I might actually lose my entire female readership (which is a huge percentage, I must say!) because of this. Well anyway, I figured people reading my blog would know that I'm just being funny most of the time and not being mean! And this is more like guy's humor, anyway so. =D

It is true. Chivalry is not dead. People are still concerned for other people. There is this thing inside all of us which make us humans, that is sympathy. There are still a lot of people who care for others.

And thanks, man! I'm glad you enjoyed reading it. =]

Jack Schnerk said...

One of the hardest things to learn, is how to see people (male and female) who are out to clip you. Somebody out to take or enjoy what you've got, and forget about where it came from.

60 years ago they were called "fair weather friends"

Jack Schnerk said...

One of the hardest things to learn, is how to see people (male and female) who are out to clip you. Somebody out to take or enjoy what you've got, and forget about where it came from.

60 years ago they were called "fair weather friends"

Jack Schnerk said...

One of the hardest things to learn, is how to see people (male and female) who are out to clip you. Somebody out to take or enjoy what you've got, and forget about where it came from.

60 years ago they were called "fair weather friends"

Jack Schnerk said...

One of the hardest things to learn, is how to see people (male and female) who are out to clip you. Somebody out to take or enjoy what you've got, and forget about where it came from.

60 years ago they were called "fair weather friends"

Oliver said...

@Jack
Thanks for your comments, but I will have to delete one of those duplicates soon! LOL. I really appreciate you leaving a comment, thanks. =]

Asinastra Nightshade said...

*new follower* Hello. =D

I personally don't really know if I buy into the whole 'men should be chivalrous to women just 'coz they're men' deal. I mean, we've been fighting for gender equality for so long, it seems somewhat unfair that we should want it both ways. We should know that we can't always have it.

Everyone loves to be spoiled, loves to feel that they're special. It doesn't necessarily have to be a one-way road, and it's annoying that it often is.

And sure, men will help old women cross the road, help a pregnant woman with her groceries, help a girl pick up her notes. Just as a woman can, and, hopefully, will. For if we expect men to do all that, we'd better jolly well learn to do it ourselves.

Great post. =D

Oliver said...

@Nightshade
Hey there! Thanks for visiting Overville. I hope you have fun here! =]

Oh, you bring up a good point. Of course everyone loves to be spoiled. Haha who am I to generalize that only women demand to be treated well by the opposite sex? Of course guys would love to be treated like kings by women too! But it's a different extent though. =P

And also women love to do things on their own nowadays. Ha. That's how they promote gender equality. They don't expect much from guys anymore, I guess. I love it.

And thanks! I'm very glad you liked it! =]

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